Look around you, are you settling? Are the people around you settling? When did settling become so accepted, even encouraged?
People settle into relationships that don’t fulfill them because hiding behind a white picket fence feels safer than forging your way through life alone. You have money in your bank account, the mortgage, the new truck, the labradoodle, every Sunday you go to your in laws for family dinner, you go for date night every Wednesday, it’s not like he treats you bad but you can’t help but wonder if there’s something more out there for you. Passion, adventure, twin flame, a soul to soul connection… you wonder if it’s possible. You wonder if it’s something that you will only watch on Netflix and if it really exists in real life.
Every Monday you drag yourself to work. You punch yourself in at 9, go through the motions and punch yourself out at 5. You do this 5 days straight, counting down the minutes to Friday at 5:00 where you run out of the office excited for 2 days away from the monotony of staring at a screen for 8 hours. You feel safe and secure in your position, you know how much money is coming in each month and it keeps a roof over your head and money going into your RRSP’s. But, you are bored. You wonder what it would be like to start that business you’ve been tossing around for a while now. The fear of failure holds you in your comfort zone.
If reading this struck a cord, I want to give you permission. Permission to say the words that so many feel are selfish, perhaps even you. I once felt these words were selfish too and it held me back for years…are you ready for it?
“I deserve more.”
A resistance to these words held me back in an abusive relationship.
A resistance to these words held me back in a heavy party lifestyle.
Finally, those words meant something to me and I broke free… only to settle again.
A resistance to these words held me back behind a white picket fence.
A resistance to these words held me back in the corporate world working a job that didn’t resonate with me.
Finally, those three words meant A LOT to me, and I literally set my life on fire and walked away from it all.
What has these three words gotten me in the past year and a half?
It has brought travel into my life…13 cities/countries in 1 year.
Massive self growth, self awareness and self transformation.
A free spirit that will terrify most and excite some…those “some” are my kind of people.
Clarity on my life purpose and calling.
New friendships forged that are people who have similar mindsets and encourage growth, adventure and passion.
Finding a magical soul to soul connection with someone who I have such intense chemistry with who shares my thirst for adventure and entrepreneurial mindset.
The courage to completely have a fresh start in a new country, new continent, new culture. In 2018 I will become an expat and live my life in permanent wanderlust.
Reading this it may all look like butterflies and rainbows, but I won’t lie to you and say it was all 100% magical. Reflecting back on this past year and a bit, it has been chaotic and messy. There was so much magic, and will continue to be a life of passion, adventure, doing my soul’s work, and pursuing what sets my soul on fire, but there was also chaos.
There was heartache, anger, finding painful truth in other people’s lies, court, being laid off, trauma, ptsd, therapy, losing loved ones, ended friendships, self sabotage, non stop drama from people of my past, and the list can go on.
It’s been one of the hardest years of my life, but it’s also been the best year of my life. It all boils down to the decision to stop settling and that I was worth magic in all areas of my life.
I give you permission to tell yourself that you are no longer going to settle for mediocrity, and that even though things will be uncertain, it is going to work out in a beautiful way when you set your mind on doing exactly what sets YOUR soul on fire, nobody else’s.
It won’t all be butterfly and rainbows, there will be chaos and it will be messy, but there WILL be butterfly and rainbows.
With pleasure always comes pain…make sure the pleasure is worth the pain.